I’m sure I’ll receive flack from some of my female readers for this post but I truly believe I can’t expect my man to do for me if I’m not trying to do for him too. Below are four things I personally think every man needs. None of it is a secret but women we get so caught up in our daily activity we forget to do the basics or we are so hurt, annoyed, tired of him we don’t think he deserves the basics. If you love your man and want him to be happy you have to go the extra mile; just like you want him to do for you. Let’s get back to the basics.
Compliment Him:
As women we love compliments but how many of us actually compliment our man? Letting him know how good he looks in an outfit or how those extra set of push-ups have been paying off. Even if you are at the point were nothing about him excites you or is deserving of a compliment, dig deep and find something; anything. Try to remember what made you fall in love with him in the beginning and compliment him on that. Men need to hear it as much as we do. Think about if your man never told you how beautiful you looked. Let him know you notice him.
Flirt with Him:
In the beginning, we want to make sure our men are always turned on to us. Whether we send him naughty text messages in the middle of the day or slip into a form fitting dress on date night or we just give him that look with our seductress eyes. After about six months, we are in our routine and all that flirting gets pushed to the back burner. Ladies, we can’t allow routine to blow out the fire in our relationship. Please understand I’m not talking about just sex, but more about romance and flirting. Flirt with your man, touch him softly as you pass him in the hall way, wink at him across the dinner table, do all those things you did when you first met him to grab his attention. Your man needs to know you still think he is sexy and desirable.
Respect Him:
Men are just as insecure as we are at times. You can’t just recognize him for how awesomely sexy he is or how you can’t wait to pounce on him when he gets home, because he will feel as if he is just a piece of meat to you (not that he minds most of the time). Men want to know you respect them also, their decisions, how they handle situations and that you trust they can do it right. What ever “it” is. Women we like to control situations, I personally believe this isn’t our true nature but has evolved through the years. I believe we want to let go, RELAX and let our man take the reigns but something deep inside says, “I can do it better, faster, and right”. This maybe true but you’ll never know unless you let him have some control. I’m sure he will surprise you if you do. Not saying men don’t make mistakes but given the opportunity we will see they are very capable. I can attest I’m bad at letting him handle it especially if he isn’t moving fast enough for me. I want it done now! And if it isn’t I’m doing it myself. I’m slowly learning to RELAX and be patient.
Thank Him:
Lastly, let them know they are doing things right. As much as we hate admitting it we aren’t perfect so we shouldn’t expect our guy to be either. Let him know you notice the little things he does for you and around the house. A simple “thank you” or “you are the best” can make him feel like a million bucks.
Bonus Points:
NBA 2k11 comes out tomorrow (Oct 5th) if your man is a gamer and has been talking about the game go buy it and surprise him. Trust me.
Luv2LuvYa,
@TammiLorraine
~My Days & Nights are Forever Sunny~
please add in and pardon my crass jargon.
we need the 3 F’s as well.
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Let us know what the 3F’s are…
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Just a wild guess on the 3 F’s. Feed, F*** & Fondle ? lol ok I’m leaving.
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food, sex, and silence.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g_4DYBejrvo#t=0m42s
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LOL… Odara you were right w/ the Food and F*** but Zillz is there a silent F in “silence”?!? LOL I guess I’ll watch the youtube clip…
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Thanks Tammi for stressing the importance of consistency with both parties leading and following in this Tango we call relations. Although I’m not in a relationship these excellent tips can also be applied while dating– which create good respectful habits. Oh yeah and if anyone wants to surprise me– a complete stranger– with that NBA 2K11– Allow me to first wink at you while complimenting you on how good you looked today while buying that game for me. Oh yeah and Thank you so much my beautiful Queen– LOL
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HA! If you can get a stranger to get you NBA 2k11 then kudos…
And YES consistency is the key… but being consistent with the RIGHT things… Thank you for your comment!
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I think you really hit the nail on the head with this one, and if you receive flack from anyone then clearly they need to reevaluate a few things and memorize these tips lol.
Like you said, a lot of times we tend to get so accustomed to being “catered” to or being on the receiving end of the compliments that we forget our men also need an equal amount of affection & attention.
Great Post Tammi !!
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Thank you so much Odara for reading, commenting and RT’ing this post… I’m glad you agree and like it… I think we complain so much about what our man isn’t doing for us we forget we need to be doing for them too…
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wow…i read this and figure maybe its me that prob need to be doing this more in the relationship.im one of those guys that doesnt show emotions..at all..except to my daughter of course..but lately i been failing alot..but thank you for the awesome blog topic!
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Cordero this definitely goes BOTH WAYS… Although I was telling women to do this more, men need to also do the same for their woman… And I know your woman… She DESERVES all this and MORE!! =)
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Nice, no flack…I like the ‘flirt’ option as another f option may not be an option for some
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LOL!!! I’m w/you Justyce “Food, Flirt, and I guess FUN!” =) Thank you for your comment mama…
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I totally agree! Men need to be lifted up just as much as we do. Great post!!
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Thank you Ivonnah! They do and we can’t ask them to do the same if we aren’t also… Thank you for your support…
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Its good to c the site back up nice 2k pic these r all true statements.
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Thank you.
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Listening to him is by far the most important which goes hand in hand with respecting the decisions he makes in the relationship
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It’s different for every man…
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Tammi
I like the get back to the basics concept (no flack here). You are right, guys do want to feel appreciated, respected & desireable in our presence. It is easy to slip on these things with the every day affairs but they do count.
~keep up the good work ; }
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Thank you Geborah =) Yes we must get to the basics and build from there… Appreciate your comment…
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Great post. I really enjoyed the article. I would like for all the ladies out there to read this but at the same time only use this knowledge for a man who deserving.
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I so AGREE use it only for a deserving man!! =)
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FROM YOUR BLOGS U MADE MY RELATIONSHIP WORK REAL TALK…..
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Hey Tammi!!!
I want to let you know that I really enjoy reading your posts on this website! <3 them! This one especially…. I'm glad you posted it. It is important. Us women do need to be conscious of the little things we do, as we pay attention to the little (minute details at that… I know I do) things they do! I like the part in the "Flirt with Him" section where you mention its important to keep the fire going! That is so important. You gotta keep the relationship exciting! I'm currently not in a relationship…when that will happen and who's my man..? God knows! lol But in this stage, as I'm "talking" to guy friends, potentials… That whole excitement in the beginnging stage- flirtiness, "playing slightly hard to get", the butterflies, etc… I'm a firm believer all that should REMAIN in the realtionship! =o)
Couples need to spend more time planning the marriage than they do the wedding itself. Your post made me remember this idea!
lol I'm a total *hope-full romantic Thanks, Girl! You’re inspiring me to get my journal…perhaps write some poems! Or just freewrite! lol
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YES!
Never let the spark die… And definitely keep writing Ana…
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Great post! I totally agree. Let a man be a man and make him feel good in other ways besides sex!
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Because Sex won’t keep him… Thank you for commenting…
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I really enjoyed reading your blog! I must say I do agree with all of the four gestures and if there was a fifth, it would definitely have to be “Support Him”.
The simple things in life is like the “Crazy Glue” of relationships, it puts things back into perspective and salvages the love and the bond that were present when the simple things were indeed important.
Looking forward to your next blog!
Nat~
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You are right Nat… SUPPORTING HIM is a biggy…
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My girl hit the nail on the head with this one! I love that u mentioned the respect part. Fellas, we gotta earn it tho. Glad the show is back and dropping those quality nuggets. Much love baby girl.
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Thank you DOVER&DOVER!! Appreciate the support as always… And definitely only for a man that deserves it…
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I agree on this. I dont mind showing a REAL man how much he means to me. Let a man be a man. The person whomever i decide to be with will know that he is the man in the relationship
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Yes a deserving Man… These “tips” aren’t for every man… Thank you for your comment…
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You made some good points there. A lot of people will agree with this.
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I hope. Thank you
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Finally a great post regarding what men need, keep up the good work!
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Thank you =)
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Peace Tammi,
I had this conversation on a BlogTalk show last week. The host and I agreed, that it isn’t a “Woman’s” responsibility to “Keep Her Man Happy”. Listen to my previous episode–> “Keep Your Man Happy (Is That A Woman’s Duty?)” @ http://www.misterantagonist.podomatic.com, and let me know if you can relate.
BTW, I would love to discuss this topic with you on my show.
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