I’m sure I’ll receive flack from some of my female readers for this post but I truly believe I can’t expect my man to do for me if I’m not trying to do for him too. Below are four things I personally think every man needs. None of it is a secret but women we get so caught up in our daily activity we forget to do the basics or we are so hurt, annoyed, tired of him we don’t think he deserves the basics. If you love your man and want him to be happy you have to go the extra mile; just like you want him to do for you. Let’s get back to the basics.
As women we love compliments but how many of us actually compliment our man? Letting him know how good he looks in an outfit or how those extra set of push-ups have been paying off. Even if you are at the point were nothing about him excites you or is deserving of a compliment, dig deep and find something; anything. Try to remember what made you fall in love with him in the beginning and compliment him on that. Men need to hear it as much as we do. Think about if your man never told you how beautiful you looked. Let him know you notice him.
Flirt with Him:
In the beginning, we want to make sure our men are always turned on to us. Whether we send him naughty text messages in the middle of the day or slip into a form fitting dress on date night or we just give him that look with our seductress eyes. After about six months, we are in our routine and all that flirting gets pushed to the back burner. Ladies, we can’t allow routine to blow out the fire in our relationship. Please understand I’m not talking about just sex, but more about romance and flirting. Flirt with your man, touch him softly as you pass him in the hall way, wink at him across the dinner table, do all those things you did when you first met him to grab his attention. Your man needs to know you still think he is sexy and desirable.
Men are just as insecure as we are at times. You can’t just recognize him for how awesomely sexy he is or how you can’t wait to pounce on him when he gets home, because he will feel as if he is just a piece of meat to you (not that he minds most of the time). Men want to know you respect them also, their decisions, how they handle situations and that you trust they can do it right. What ever “it” is. Women we like to control situations, I personally believe this isn’t our true nature but has evolved through the years. I believe we want to let go, RELAX and let our man take the reigns but something deep inside says, “I can do it better, faster, and right”. This maybe true but you’ll never know unless you let him have some control. I’m sure he will surprise you if you do. Not saying men don’t make mistakes but given the opportunity we will see they are very capable. I can attest I’m bad at letting him handle it especially if he isn’t moving fast enough for me. I want it done now! And if it isn’t I’m doing it myself. I’m slowly learning to RELAX and be patient.
Lastly, let them know they are doing things right. As much as we hate admitting it we aren’t perfect so we shouldn’t expect our guy to be either. Let him know you notice the little things he does for you and around the house. A simple “thank you” or “you are the best” can make him feel like a million bucks.
NBA 2k11 comes out tomorrow (Oct 5th) if your man is a gamer and has been talking about the game go buy it and surprise him. Trust me.
~My Days & Nights are Forever Sunny~